Updated: Dec 31, 2018
There are 5 steps to crushing your crisis quickly and effectively and getting back on your feet in no time.
The first thing to do when faced with a crisis is to hit the brakes and look around. Crisis situations can gather momentum with breath taking speed and it is very easy to get caught up in the stress and drama and lose control of your own thoughts, emotions and behaviour which can add to what is already a bad situation. Stopping literally means take a breath, take a beat and take stock of what is going on. It is critical to throw the anchor out as soon as you realise you are either in, or headed towards a crisis.
This is the step where you get your thoughts, feelings and emotions under control and ground yourself in reality. When we are confronted with a high stress event, our fight or flight mechanism kicks in and stress hormones flood the body. In this heightened state, it is almost impossible to think clearly and rationally therefore it is imperative to find a place of calm from which to begin the journey back out of crisis. “Parking” your emotions is extremely helpful as it allows you take an objective look at the evidence of your situation. What is actually real about this and what is imagined? It is critical to stick to the facts as it is very easy to begin creating false stories to tell yourself which can trigger an emotional tailspin. In this time, also determine what you can control and what you can’t control. This will conserve emotional energy. You can only control your own thoughts, feelings and actions. You cannot control these of anyone else and to try will only wear you out. This is a time to begin looking for solutions once you have your emotions under control.
Whatever you resist persists. Surrendering does not mean lying down and giving up. It simply means to accept what is going on. It is what it is. Pushing back, fighting and resisting will only add more energy to the crisis and prolong it as well as increasing your emotional and psychological distress. A force that has no counterforce is no longer a force. Imagine falling into a fast flowing river. If you madly try to swim against the current you will soon tire and drown. However, if you just for the moment go with the flow, around the next bend will be a branch to grab into or someone waiting to pull you out.
This is a step you can choose to skip as it is putting one foot into the world of spiritual belief. Also, it just might be too soon to accept. This step is believing this crisis you are going through is no accident. It has come into your life just at the right time as there is a lesson you must learn and a crisis provides a concentrated burst of personal growth. A crisis is designed to either get you into something or out of something. It may be hard to believe it at the time however, this situation has been sent to get you back on your life path. The two things that a crisis forces are decision and change. There are always choices to make and change is guaranteed. Trust that there is a reason this is happening and this will help you take back your power.
Believe in yourself and your ability to transcend this crisis. You are the hero in your own journey and right now, you are on a quest. This is not happening to you, it is happening for you. You have survived other challenges and you will survive this one. You are a warrior, you are fearless and you have courage, determination and power to embrace and transcend this crisis. Believe in your own abilities and believe that you are not alone. You will get through this and as Bob Marley said “You have no idea how strong you can be until you no option but to be strong”